Adoption is Hard

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Saviorism in Adoption

2023-06-09T09:20:10-07:00June 1, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Hoping to Adopt, Learn|

Today we continue our series on “What I Did Wrong as a Prospective Adoptive Parent”. In this blog Purl Advisor, Kelcie Grace, will discuss the concept of saviorism in adoption and how prospective adoptive parents early in the adoption process often see themselves as “helping a baby in need of a loving home” and fail to grasp the complexities and trauma of adoption. To read more, click here.

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Oversharing My Adoption Story

2023-06-09T09:21:45-07:00May 27, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Hoping to Adopt, Learn|

Hi there! My name is Aubrey, I am one of the Purl advisors and today I am sharing one of the biggest mistakes I made on my personal adoption journey: oversharing my child's adoption story. Parenting is hard and it's easy to get caught up in all the things we could have done better. My hope is by sharing a sliver of my story, prospective adoptive families that are just starting their journeys can learn from my mistake. Click here to read more.

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Celebrating Adoption Finalization – This Gay Dad’s Perspective

2023-05-22T11:20:21-07:00May 22, 2023|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

If you've been following along, our CEO/Founder, Katie Zimmerman, has been doing a series surrounding the things she feels she did wrong in her domestic infant adoption journey, with the benefit of hindsight. We have gotten a lot of positive feedback from our readers and our fellow Purl Families who we have helped along the way. Daniel Duran, who adopted his daughter a few years ago with his husband with our support, sent this response to our recent post about whether we should celebrate adoption finalization days. In it, Daniel shares what celebrating adoption finalization means to him as a gay dad. We hope you enjoy this perspective and we hope this encourages you to also share your thoughts on the "mistakes" we have been discussing! Click here to read more.

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Celebrating Adoption Finalization Day

2023-05-21T16:01:22-07:00May 18, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Learn, Open Adoption (Learn)|

We are continuing our series on "What I Did Wrong as a Prospective Adoptive Parent" with a discussion about celebrating adoption finalization day. I know this one in particular may be hard to hear for some prospective adoptive parents or adoptive parents, and you may not agree with me on it, but please hear me out. I recognize that I too celebrated my child's own adoption finalization day for years, and still acknowledge it even now due to the mistakes I made early in my own adoption journey. But I wanted to at least post about this so people consider whether it makes sense to regularly celebrate this day, particularly once your child has a better understanding of its actual meaning? Click here to read more.

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Insecurity About “Mom” and Fears About Open Adoption

2023-05-21T16:02:22-07:00May 17, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Open Adoption (Learn), Uncategorized|

As Mother's Day approached, I (Katie - CEO/Founder of Purl) tried unsuccessfully to get this blog post up. Because Mother's Day is complicated for so many people, including those touched by adoption. I struggled to organize my thoughts about my own insecurity with my own motherhood through adoption and how that related to my fears of open adoption. While it has been relatively easy for me to share my other mistakes in my adoption journey, this was one area that was especially hard for me.  Maybe it was due to embarrassment, but after the 10th draft, here are my still scrambled thoughts... The mistake I'm discussing today centered around my own insecurity about the role of  "Mother", and how that impacted my adoption journey and even the early years of my child's open adoption. Click here to read more.

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Naming An Adopted Child

2023-05-21T16:00:21-07:00May 9, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption|

One area I (Katie - CEO/Founder of Purl) went wrong as a prospective adoptive parent was my thoughts and process on naming an adopted child. My perspective at the time of our adoption journey was that this was going to be my child and I should get to name my child. The adoption professionals we worked with didn’t give me any education on this area, and instead said the name the expectant mother gave the child didn’t really matter because we could change the name after finalization. Click on this link to read more about how dramatically my opinion has changed about the right and privilege to name a child, as well as a discussion as to how the issuance of the birth certificate works in an adoption setting, and what impact that has on adoptees' ability to secure a copy of their birth certificate later on.

  • Things I did wrong in my domestic infant adoption journey as a prospective adoptive parent

Things I Did Wrong, And You May Have Done Wrong Too…

2023-05-06T07:06:06-07:00May 6, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

Hi there! Happy Friday! This is Katie, CEO/Founder of Purl. As I have discussed before, I was pretty naïve as a brand new prospective adoptive family, and I had little education/preparation from the adoption professionals we worked with in our quick adoption process. But in hindsight, there are quite a ...

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Choice of Law Analysis in Interstate Domestic Adoption

2023-04-24T13:30:42-07:00April 24, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

Did you know that most interstate domestic adoptions include a choice of law analysis by an adoption attorney or attorneys to determine which state's law to apply to the adoption proceeding? An interstate domestic adoption means that a family is adopting a child from a state they don't live in, ...

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Sharing the Adoption Story: Navigating Sensitivity and Consent

2023-04-11T17:32:01-07:00January 24, 2023|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Hoping to Adopt, Learn, Open Adoption (Learn)|

In today’s blog post, Adoption Advisor, Kelcie Grace, talks about the importance of NOT sharing your child’s adoption story. She urges adoptive parents to recognize that the entire adoption triad is involved in the adoption story and adoptive parents do not have the right, the permission, nor the experience to ...

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Why You Are Still Waiting: The Hard Truth About the Current State of Adoption and the Importance of Open Preferences

2023-04-11T17:30:37-07:00January 17, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Process, Adoption Profile, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt, Learn, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

Adoption can be a long and difficult journey, but it's important to understand the current state of domestic infant adoption in the US. In this blog post, Adoption Advisor and mother of one child through adoption, Kelcie Grace, shares the hard truths about the imbalance between prospective adoptive families and ...

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