Adoption Perspectives

  • discussing my mistakes in oversharing my child's adoption story

Oversharing My Adoption Story

2023-06-09T09:21:45-07:00May 27, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Hoping to Adopt, Learn|

Hi there! My name is Aubrey, I am one of the Purl advisors and today I am sharing one of the biggest mistakes I made on my personal adoption journey: oversharing my child's adoption story. Parenting is hard and it's easy to get caught up in all the things we could have done better. My hope is by sharing a sliver of my story, prospective adoptive families that are just starting their journeys can learn from my mistake. Click here to read more.

  • celebrating adoption finalization as a gay dad

Celebrating Adoption Finalization – This Gay Dad’s Perspective

2023-05-22T11:20:21-07:00May 22, 2023|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

If you've been following along, our CEO/Founder, Katie Zimmerman, has been doing a series surrounding the things she feels she did wrong in her domestic infant adoption journey, with the benefit of hindsight. We have gotten a lot of positive feedback from our readers and our fellow Purl Families who we have helped along the way. Daniel Duran, who adopted his daughter a few years ago with his husband with our support, sent this response to our recent post about whether we should celebrate adoption finalization days. In it, Daniel shares what celebrating adoption finalization means to him as a gay dad. We hope you enjoy this perspective and we hope this encourages you to also share your thoughts on the "mistakes" we have been discussing! Click here to read more.

  • celebrating adoption finalization day

Celebrating Adoption Finalization Day

2023-05-21T16:01:22-07:00May 18, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Learn, Open Adoption (Learn)|

We are continuing our series on "What I Did Wrong as a Prospective Adoptive Parent" with a discussion about celebrating adoption finalization day. I know this one in particular may be hard to hear for some prospective adoptive parents or adoptive parents, and you may not agree with me on it, but please hear me out. I recognize that I too celebrated my child's own adoption finalization day for years, and still acknowledge it even now due to the mistakes I made early in my own adoption journey. But I wanted to at least post about this so people consider whether it makes sense to regularly celebrate this day, particularly once your child has a better understanding of its actual meaning? Click here to read more.

  • fears about open adoption

Insecurity About “Mom” and Fears About Open Adoption

2023-05-21T16:02:22-07:00May 17, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Open Adoption (Learn), Uncategorized|

As Mother's Day approached, I (Katie - CEO/Founder of Purl) tried unsuccessfully to get this blog post up. Because Mother's Day is complicated for so many people, including those touched by adoption. I struggled to organize my thoughts about my own insecurity with my own motherhood through adoption and how that related to my fears of open adoption. While it has been relatively easy for me to share my other mistakes in my adoption journey, this was one area that was especially hard for me.  Maybe it was due to embarrassment, but after the 10th draft, here are my still scrambled thoughts... The mistake I'm discussing today centered around my own insecurity about the role of  "Mother", and how that impacted my adoption journey and even the early years of my child's open adoption. Click here to read more.

  • Things I did wrong - centering myself as a prospective adoptive parent

Centering Myself as A Parent Instead of My Child

2023-06-09T09:23:09-07:00May 6, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

Hi, Katie (CEO/Founder of Purl) here again, following up as promised about the things I did wrong in my own adoption journey to help other prospective adoptive parents. When we started the adoption process we were naïve, and definitely should have had more education and preparation. We desperately wanted a ...

  • Things I did wrong in my domestic infant adoption journey as a prospective adoptive parent

Things I Did Wrong, And You May Have Done Wrong Too…

2023-05-06T07:06:06-07:00May 6, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

Hi there! Happy Friday! This is Katie, CEO/Founder of Purl. As I have discussed before, I was pretty naïve as a brand new prospective adoptive family, and I had little education/preparation from the adoption professionals we worked with in our quick adoption process. But in hindsight, there are quite a ...

  • racial mirrors, transracial adoption

Racial Mirrors in Transracial Adoption

2023-04-11T16:56:42-07:00January 6, 2023|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Hoping to Adopt, Learn, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

Aubrey is a Purl Adoption Advisor as well as a white adoptive mother to three wonderful Black children. Having spent endless hours reading articles from transracial adoptees and adoptive parents, psychology studies and opinions from a range of qualified people, she found that one quote seemed to sum it up: “love is not enough”. Your child may feel loved, while also feeling lost, insecure, and a lack self-worth. Providing racial mirrors for your transracially adopted child can build a bridge to their racial identity. In this post, Aubrey discusses what racial mirrors are, why they are so important, and where to start. Click here to learn more.

Dear Mom of a Child Through Adoption (Author Unknown)

2023-01-22T11:21:10-07:00December 20, 2022|Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Infertility, Learn, Open Adoption (Learn)|

I (Katie - Founder/CEO) have seen this circulate a hundred times since adopting, but for some reason it hit me harder today so I thought I would memorialize here on our page. For anyone who needs to hear this and feel the community today.... ---- Dear Mom of a Child ...

  • Adoptee with trauma, closed adoptee

Adult Adoptee Shares Her Raw Story

2023-04-10T15:55:51-07:00November 10, 2022|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt, Infertility, Learn, Open Adoption (Learn)|

Today's blog post is written by a guest writer, Cathee Zimmerman Cooper, an adult adoptee from a closed adoption, who shares with us her experience as an adoptee and the advice she has for those who are parenting children through adoption. — About Me Hello, my name is Cathee, and ...

  • chosen by expectant mother, matched in adoption

Being Chosen and Next Steps

2023-04-10T15:36:42-07:00November 23, 2022|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Learn|

You get chosen by an expectant family considering adoption for their child! Such amazing news and one of the major milestones in the domestic adoption journey. Many families have long waits and MANY presentations before they get to this point. But what is next? And what does being chosen really mean? Being chosen just means that you are one step closer to a child, and while it is a major milestone, that child may never actually be yours. Click here to read more about what happens after a match, and what NOT to do when you are chosen by an expectant parent whose baby isn’t expected for a bit.

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