Surviving a “Disrupted Adoption”

October had always been one of my favorite months of the year. Living in Arizona, it is usually the first sign of cooler weather, football is in full swing and my three favorite holidays are on the horizon. When my husband and I were home study approved and certified to adopt in early August, we were quickly matched with an expectant mother due with a baby boy in mid-October. I was so excited about that being the month we would become parents. I purchased the cutest little bear Halloween costume for him and was thrilled to begin to get to know the expectant mother that would become our son’s birth mother. I couldn’t have predicted that on October 7 a sweet baby boy would be born, but by October 10, after cuddling him for days in the hospital, I would be one of so many in the adoption world to experience what is commonly called a “failed adoption.”

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Purl Team Member - Director of Graphic Design

Most of you who know me (Katie) personally know that I’m not nearly creative or talented enough to create the gorgeous profile and adoption outreach materials that we have for Purl, but I’m smart enough to hire someone who does!

Today, we are featuring the amazing woman behind most of the graphic design work for Purl, Director of Graphic Design, Alison (Ali) Alvidrez.

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Tom and Karen

We are so excited to feature our sweet Purl family, Tom and Karen! Tom and Karen were just friends and colleagues for 8 years before Tom finally got the nerve to ask Karen on a date, but then the rest was history! This Arizona couple has felt a strong calling to adopt and cannot wait to begin their adoption journey to find the child meant for their family! They can’t wait to share all their adventures with their child.

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Andrew and Cagney

We are so excited to feature another adorable Purl family, Andrew, Cagney and their beautiful daughter Maguire, who they adopted in October of 2017! This sweet family cannot wait to add to their family again through adoption. They hope to adopt another African American child like Maguire, so that their children can grow up with a sibling with features that mirror their own.

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Katie Zimmerman
Adoption Glossary

Interested in adoption but overwhelmed by all the jargon and legal terms? As an adoptive mom who once was in your shoes, I know how intimidating it can be at the beginning of the process. Here are some common terms used in domestic infant adoption and what they typically mean within the adoption community.

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Greg and Jessica

We are so thrilled to feature another Purl family, Greg and Jessica! This adorable couple cannot wait to add to their family through adoption! Greg is a fun-loving jokester, and an amazing father to his three kids. Jessica is thoughtful and caring and is as sweet as the sound of her South African accent. Jessica was adopted at birth, so when Greg and Jessica married and talked about growing their family, both easily agreed that adoption was the perfect way!

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - David and Jen

We are so thrilled to share our featured family, David and Jen, and their adorable son Thomas! This sweet family is so excited about their adoption journey and adding one (or more) children to their family through adoption.  Jen has a special connection to adoption because her dad is adopted.  After Thomas was born, Jen experienced some secondary infertility issues. The appreciation for adoption instilled in them through Jen's dad, and knowing how much more love they have to give, David and Jen decided that adoption would be the perfect way to grow their family. This family loves exploring new places together, being outside, and attending sporting events (Thomas is already a huge football fan like his daddy).  Thomas can't wait to have a little brother or sister to snuggle! If you or someone you know is interested in learning more about this family, you can contact them at davidandjenadopt@gmail.comor contact their attorney, Emily M. Debnam, at 1-800-286-6046.

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Katie Zimmerman
The Adoption Tax Credit

If you have adopted a child or are considering it, you may already know about the Adoption Tax Credit. The credit, which has been part of federal tax law since 1997, allows adoptive families to defray some of the costs incurred when they grow their families through adoption. It has helped bring together hundreds of thousands of families, many of whom would not have been able to grow their families through adoption without it. 


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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Josh & Leann

We are thrilled to feature this fun Purl family, Josh, Leann and their two sweet boys! Josh and Leann cannot wait to add a little princess (or two) to their family, and have them grow up just as close as their sons! And these soon to be big brothers cannot wait to dote on a little sister! Josh and Leann are so excited about their adoption journey, and would love to have an open adoption with an expecting family considering an adoption plan for their child! To learn more about this family, you can visit their family profile (designed by Purl) or their adoption website, www.azadopting.com

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Katie Zimmerman
My Love-Hate Relationship with Mother's Day

Oh Mother's Day ... I love you now, but I really hated you for a little while there. When I was single and in my mid-30s, I often wondered if I'd ever be a mother. Mother's Day seemed to be the day where someone stuck a knife in my heart a little and twisted it around, as I watched my friends and family celebrate the joy of being a mother. I felt like I already had to smile through each and every friend's baby shower, wasn't that enough??! When I finally found the love of my life and we went through unsuccessful IVF treatments right before Mother's Day, I can remember crying in church, ultimately leaving early because I couldn't keep it together.

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Katie Zimmerman
An Adoptive Parent's Labor

Two sweet Purl families are currently matched with expectant mothers due in the next days and months. It is such an exciting time, but they now must endure the difficult wait that comes with adoption. It brings back lots of memories for me personally of our journey to become parents.  I still remember telling one of my friends that my husband and I were going to stop the infertility treatments for awhile and begin the adoption process, and her response: "Well, at least you aren't going to have to go through labor to have your baby". At the time, I didn't think much of the comment, and probably even nodded in agreement. Little did I know, my version of "labor" was going to last over 72 hours, and the first time I experienced that labor, I would be leaving a hospital without a baby.

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Aaron & Kim

We are so thrilled to feature another Purl family, Aaron & Kim, and their three adorable children. This family loves to have fun, laugh, go places and experience new things! Both Aaron and Kim independently decided that they wanted to adopt a child to complete their family, and were so pleasantly surprised when they learned how the other one felt! They hope to take home the child meant for them soon, and are eager to have an open or semi-open adoption with an expectant family. If you want to learn more about them, please visit their full family profile (designed by Purl) or their family website: aaronkimadopt.com.

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Katie Zimmerman
Why Hire An Adoption Advisor?

Adopting a baby is wonderful, awesome, fulfilling experience, but it can also be very HARD! The process itself can be intimidating, and most don’t know where to begin once they make the decision to grow their family through adoption.

It used to be that anyone interested in domestic infant adoption would sign up with their local adoption agency, fill out the paperwork, pay some fees then just waited for their baby. But times have changed. Agency adoptions have gotten more and more expensive, there are less expectant mothers placing their babies for adoption, wait times have increased and there are more unethical adoption professionals praying on the vulnerability of prospective adoptive parents. Because of this, we believe that the most efficient, safest and least lonely way to adopt is by utilizing an adoption advisor, otherwise known as adoption consultant, for your adoption. We hold your hand throughout the adoption process. 

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Katie Zimmerman
Featured Family - Jay & Jenny

We are so thrilled to feature another Purl family, Jay & Jenny! This sweet couple cannot wait to add to their family through adoption! Jay & Jenny were friends in college and then reconnected years later with friends at a baseball game. Jay & Jenny's favorite things to do together are swim, hike, watch movies, cook, ride bikes and play games. If you want to learn more about this family, please visit their full family profile. If you'd like to contact them directly, please email them at jayandjennyadopt@gmail.com. 

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Katie Zimmerman
An Aspiring Young Photographer and Adoptee's Story

Caleb Busak is a talented, aspiring young photographer who was adopted from South Korea as an infant. Today he shares his adoption story, of growing with a different ethnicity than his parents and his community. HIs shares his struggles with the concept of adoption, but also tells of his deep love and respect for his adoptive parents who have given him so much love and so many opportunities. We hope you enjoy his story, as well as the beautiful photos he has taken that are featured here. 

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Katie Zimmerman
Tandem: The Personal Adoption Story of Adoptive Mom, Author and Adoption Professional

Our adoption story started 10 years ago on an old country road. That nudge towards adoption landed us in rural Wisconsin 5 years later-holding our newborn baby girl. Then, three years ago I went to bed after singing “Baby Beluga” and reading “God Found Us You” to our adopted beauty, Annika. That night I had a dream that woke me and catapulted me into writing a book. At 3:00am I shuffled into the back room in our house, opened my computer and started writing.

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Katie Zimmerman
Secondary Infertility - A Painful and Lonely Reality

Many women that suffer with secondary infertility do so in silence, and they often feel very lonely and misunderstood. The truth is that if you suffer from secondary infertility, you are not alone. According to NCHS data, nearly 800,000 married women with one child are unable to get pregnant again after one year of having unprotected sex. They often feel like they don’t have the right to complain or grieve because they have been blessed with a child. Those who verbalize their concerns about their condition are often met with responses that can be hurtful, like “Some people can’t even have one child” and “you are blessed to have children”.  And yes I was blessed, but it didn’t take away the longing in my heart for another child. 

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Katie Zimmerman
A Birth Mother's Story - Love is a Journey

I thought I had survived my tumultuous teenage years when I graduated from high school, received a scholarship to college, and moved across the country to begin a fresh, new chapter.  However, less than six weeks into my first semester, and home for a family visit and a doctor’s appointment to complete my immunizations for school, my life turned upside down.

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Katie Zimmerman