I’m Adopting from Another State, So What the Heck is ICPC?

If you are a prospective adoptive parent chosen for a child that is going to be born in a different state than your state of residence, you will need to travel for the birth and stay in that state until you are cleared through the Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (“ICPC”). ICPC is an agreement enacted by all 50 U.S. states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands and it governs the placement of children from one state into another state. To legally place a child with residents of another state, both the laws of the sending and receiving states must be complied with. Adoptive parents may not travel back to their state of residence with the child they are adopting until they receive ICPC approval from the state the child was born in and their state of residence. The majority of families receive ICPC approval from both states within 7-10 business days of submission of the ICPC documents (typically submitted after consents are signed, but in some states after a child is discharged from the hospital), however the ICPC processing time varies depending on the states involved. For more detailed info on ICPC, check this out.

Accommodations and Travel

Since the ICPC process can be lengthy, families adopting out of state should prepare for a long stay in the state the baby is born in, but you can leave the town/city the child is born in and travel anywhere in the state. Many Purl families arrange for stays at Airbnbs or VRBOs, to have access to kitchen and laundry facilities, particularly with a newborn during cold and RSV season. Sometimes private owners can be more flexible than a hotel with last minute changes, so do let them know the circumsatnces around your stay and they may be more flexible with last minute changes. At a minimum, I would recommend an extended stay hotel with a kitchenette. If the baby is expected to be in the NICU for any period of time, ask the placement attorney, agency or hospital social worker about referring you to the Ronald McDonald House nearest the hospital. Typically you can stay there for a small donation, and this allows you convenience and affordability while your child is in the NICU. Somtimes if they have availability, they will let you stay there a few days after discharge while you await ICPC.

We recommend checking airline transportation on many different carriers and from multiple airports near your destination to find the most reasonable flights, which are often booked at the last minute when you are told the expectant mom has begun labor. We also recommend buying travel insurance or otherwise ensuring that the airline you purchase your tickets through will allow you to change your flights for little or no fees, so you can travel home as quickly as possible once you have cleared ICPC. If purchasing travel insurance, you’ll want to make sure your policy allows you to make a change in circumstanes relating to an adoption, or otherwise a “change for no reason”.

What to Pack?

We typically recommend that you do not purchase a lot of baby items before you leave your home to take with you. Instead, we recommend you wait to purchase the essentials in the town you are traveling to, especially if you’ll have access to a Walmart, Target or Buy Buy Baby or you’re able to order through Amazon Prime (pretty much a must for every parent)! You’d be surprised at how few items you really need in this newborn stage besides a safe sleep location (pack n’ play or bassinet), some baby clothes, swaddles, a boppy, burp cloths, pacifiers and bottles. Many times the hospital will send you home with a lot of formula and diapers and even some of the other items above, but you may have to purchase more if you have a long stay.

Our baby girl in her blue carseatSome airlines will charge you to check or bring an empty car seat to your destination, so we recommend buying one at one of those stores in your destination or ordering one on Amazon to be delivered to you before your baby is discharged from the hospital. We recommend traveling with an empty suitcase or duffel bag, to carry the new items you plan to purchase at your destination home with you. The only other items you might need after hospital discharge will be a baby carrier, swing, or bouncer, particularly if your child is colicky or born exposed and suffering from any symtpoms of Neonatal Abstinence Syndrome.

Just remember that adoption disruptions do happen, so we recommend buying gender neutral items, in the event that the adoption does not proceed and you ultimately adopt a child of a different gender. Or you can be like me and have a blue car seat and stroller with two girls :)


Katie is the founder of Purl Adoption Advisory, a mom through adoption, attorney and adoption advocate. You can typically find her wearing some adoption themed t-shirt, yoga pants, tennies, yesterday’s mascara and a mom bun, drinking a coke zero, and educating people about adoption!

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